“ This book takes a hard look. . . at how we got to where we are and what progress can be made, and does so with a conviction that will resonate with and bolster many parents.”
“Here we are, decades after the feminist revolution, and yet crude self-display — of a kind that makes the daring of the 1960s seem quaint — is considered something that a "normal" college girl might eagerly choose to do for a stranger with a camera and a release form. What is going on? "We continually malign the good girl as 'repressed,'" notes Wendy Shalit, "while the bad girl is (wrongly) perceived as intrinsically expressing her individuality and somehow proving her sexuality."
—The Wall Street Journal, reviewed by Pia Catton
“What makes the modesty movement unique, according to Shalit, is that it's the adults who are often pushing sexual boundaries, and the kids who are slamming on the brakes. ‘Well-meaning experts and parents say that they understand kids' wanting to be “bad” instead of “good,”’ she writes in her book. ‘Yet this reversal of adults' expectations is often experienced not as a gift of freedom but a new kind of oppression.’ Which just may prove that rebelling against Mom and Dad is one trend that will never go out of style.”
—Newsweek, reviewed by Jennie Yabroff
“Stands out . . . in its championing of ‘new role models’ . . . who are taking a stand against the excesses of the Sexual Revolution.”
—Washington Times, reviewed by Cheryl Miller
“Even-tempered, sweetly reasonable, and full of pleasing glints of dry wit. . . an intelligent, illuminating, and unexpectedly optimistic book about those young women who have chosen to opt out of the revolution.”
—Contentions, reviewed by Terry Teachout
“Charming, moving, sometimes heartbreaking...brave and wonderful.”
“[Shalit is] a passionate defender of modesty and chastity–and [she is also] provocative and rebellious.”
“. . .throws into detailed, sickening relief the actual content the average girl in North America is subjected to from birth onwards in the determination to make her "bad." . . A solid researcher, citing wide-ranging statistical, professional and anecdotal testimony, Shalit builds a persuasive case for promiscuity's harsher toll on women than men.”
—The National Post, reviewed by Barbara Kay
“Shalit believes that too many girls and women have been denied a happy ending because, post-sexual revolution, we now believe it's good to be bad. . . .To make her point, Shalit roves through the bordello of popular culture, sweeping up unpleasant bits of evidence. She begins with Bratz dolls, a scantily clad line of playthings aimed at young girls, and goes as far as the "Girls Gone Wild" phenomenon, in which young women who ought to know better get drunk and take off their clothes and make lots of money for ungentlemanly types who sell videotapes of them. . . Shalit tells me to take heart, though, because there's a new sexual revolution a-brewing -- one in which sex is supposed to be a meaningful act between two people who actually care about each other. It's tempting to mock her, but what's so silly about the idea of self-respect and finding one's soul mate? Nothing, even if you're more the ‘Sex and the City’ type than the virgin-till-marriage type.” —Washington Post Book World, reviewed by Jennifer Howard
“Shalit marshals her evidence with the diligence of a trial lawyer. . . .Shalit does not preach; she merely reports on the pockets of girls who are taking back their innocence and insisting it is not naiveté."
—The Globe and Mail, reviewed by Elizabeth Nickson
"Wendy Shalit’s first book, A Return to Modesty. . . created a storm when it was published nine years ago but whose influence can be detected in today’s campus chastity clubs, including here at Harvard. As a veteran of pro-sex feminism who still endorses pornography and prostitution, I say more power to all these chaste young women who are defending their individuality and defying groupthink and social convention. That is true feminism!"
— Camille Paglia, Harvard Feminism Conference Keynote, April 10 2008