Hookup Ink, a review by Wendy Shalit of three books on the hookup culture on campus: .
When I critiqued the hookup culture back in 1999, and was summarily dismissed as a prude by my elders, it would have been an enormous comfort to know that less than ten years later my “prudish” position would be considered cutting-edge. But today there is little satisfaction in being buried under the avalanche of recent books like Unhooked (Riverhead, 2007) and Unhooked Generation (Hyperion, 2006),which have put the misery of postmodern sexual (non)intimacy utterly beyond dispute, and on the shelf. Even The Hookup Handbook(Pocket Books, 2005), billed as a chipper “Single Girl’s Guide to Living It Up,” can hardly be said to reflect living, much less “living it up.”
Read Wendy's latest op-ed in the New York Daily News. She writes:
"Despite all the self-serving banter about her "taking the wheel" bydisrobing, the truth is that a confident, modest Miley would be farmore rebellious than a Miley who takes the usual route of pornification."
Sam Schulman writes in the October issue of Commentary magazine:
In Shalit’s re-creation, the vulgar sexualization against which her
heroines struggle is thus in most cases something imposed on them not
so much by their peers as by adults, in an act of imperialism de haut
en bas. It is the authorities who have gone wild, and the young who
suffer. . .
And the good news? Shalit’s evangel is that, spontaneously, many girls are beginning to resist—rediscovering the virtues of self-assertion by rejecting the expectations of others to be “people-pleasing bad girls."
Read the transcript of Wendy's answers on the Washington Post's Book World Live. Here's the first question:
The Toronto Star's Judy Gerstel reports on a lunch meeting with Wendy:
"An American who became a Torontonian by marriage four years ago, Shalit is the author of two thoroughly researched books about "young women reclaiming their self-respect" and rejecting promiscuity and the hypersexuality of popular culture and fashion.
Girls Gone Mild has just arrived on bookshelves. Her previous book, A Return to Modesty, was praised by Salon, The Wall Street Journal and Newsweek, which called her "a prodigy at cracking the codes of culture." Playboy, on the other hand, put it under the heading, A Man's Worst Nightmare."
Writing for the AP, Martha Waggoner quotes Wendy Shalit (Strike a pose - for virtue and modesty):
"I think what's happening is that we've reached the limit of the 'if you've got it, flaunt it,' philosophy and we're seeing the power of a little mystery and glamour," said Wendy Shalit, author of 1999's "A Return to Modesty: Discovering the Lost Virtue" and 2007's "Girls Gone Mild."
"When exhibitionism becomes the norm, the fact is, it gets boring ..."
Wendy Shalit, on why tweens shouldn't have to look "sexy":
"There is no longer any mystery or power to sex--it is just expected that everything will be sexual, and so nothing is. There is nothing to wait for, or to look forward to."